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The Matrix of Relationship

Posted on: September 21, 2010by Dr Kim Dr Hil

We exist in a matrix of interwoven causal relationships between waves, particles and quarks of light energy. Everything is interconnected in this sea of energy. Every part of the universe is thus connected to every other part. It has been said that the most important part of understanding energy is not the source of the energy but the space around it and how each influences the other.
What does this mean to you?

What is the quality of the space around you?
How do you feel in your environment?
How do you feel around the people you generally come into contact with each week?

Observer

Taken a step further, in quantum theory the observer plays a more central role than that which is being observed. Studies have shown that an item to be observed only appears when the observer begins to focus on it.
What does this mean to you?

Are you looking for what you want in your relationships and life circumstances?
Or are you looking for what you don't want?

Waves of Positive Energy and Positive Thoughts

One form in which energy is measured is through wave fluctuations. Just consider the waves that are emitted when you place two tuning forks of the same vibrational frequency next to each other. Once one is activated the other begins to vibrate at that same frequency. However, if you have a third tuning fork set at a different vibrational frequency it will not vibrate accordingly.

What does this mean to you?
Similar frequencies attract. Thus positive energy and positive thoughts beget more positive energy and positive thoughts. Conversely negative energy and negative thoughts attract more negative energy and negative thoughts. This also applies to what and who you are attracting into your life. People of like mind attract to each other. If you want to surround yourself with supportive, optimistic and kind-hearted people you have to be supportive, optimistic and kind-hearted!

Matrix of Energy

We are all connected through the matrix of energy. We are all influencing each other. We are all carriers of information in a constant energy exchange with others and the space around us. It was Gandhi who said, Be the Change that you want to see in the world. Given what we know about the matrix of energy connecting everything and everyone;

What impact are you having on the space around you?
How are you influencing others and the world at large?

Coaching and Counseling

Hilary Stokes Ph.D. and Kim Ward Ph.D. have been a team for 20 years, specializing in mind, body, spirit psychology. They are the authors of the bestselling books The Happy Map: Your roadmap to the habit of happiness and Manifesting Mindset: The 6-step formula for attracting your goals and dreams and founders of Authenticity Associates Coaching and Counseling. They are passionate about combining the best of holistic and traditional approaches to health and happiness. If you are interested in learning the answers to the most frequently asked questions on how to decrease stress and increase happiness sign up for their free video series.

About the Authors

Hilary Stokes Phd

HIlary Stokes, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist in California with more than 25 years of clinical experience, specializing in trauma therapy, PTSD treatment, anxiety, depression, and nervous system healing. She holds Master's degrees in Clinical Social Work and Kinesiology and Sports Psychology and a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology with a specialization in Tibetan Buddhist Psychology. Dr. Stokes is extensively trained and certified in brainspotting, EMDR, somatic therapy and other mind body approaches. Her integrative work bridges neuroscience, mindfulness, and holistic psychology to help clients process unresolved trauma, rewire stress patterns, and build emotional resilience.

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Dr. Stokes’ clinical approach is informed by advanced professional training and her own healing journey from complex trauma, which shaped her commitment to therapies that go beyond traditional talk therapy. She has worked in psychiatric hospitals, addiction and PTSD treatment centers, universities, integrative medical facilities, and private practice. As co-developer of the psychology and wellness programming at Sanoviv Medical Institute, she witnessed firsthand the power of integrating mind and body for lasting transformation. Today she helps individuals heal trauma, strengthen emotional regulation and reclaim purpose through brainspotting, EMDR, somatic therapy and mindfulness interventions.

Kim Ward Phd

Kim Ward, Ph.D. holds both a masters and a doctorate in Transpersonal Psychology with a specialization in Tibetan Buddhist Psychology. She brings more than 25 years of experience in trauma recovery, Brainspotting and mind-body transformation. She is extensively trained and certified in Brainspotting, somatic therapy, and trauma-informed approaches. Dr. Ward integrates neuroscience, nervous system regulation and consciousness-based psychology to help individuals process unresolved trauma, shift limiting beliefs, and access greater emotional resilience. Her work focuses on healing at the root, beyond symptom management, through brain-body therapies that create lasting change.

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As co-developer of the psychology and wellness programs at Sanoviv Medical Institute, Dr. Ward brings a uniquely holistic perspective to trauma therapy and personal growth. Her path from corporate leadership into psychology shaped her commitment to helping clients move beyond external success toward embodied fulfillment and emotional freedom. Dr. Ward's expertise combines Brainspotting, emotional intelligence, contemplative psychology and purpose-driven coaching. Drawing from both advanced academic training and lived experience navigating complex family mental health dynamics, she supports clients in transforming stress patterns, reclaiming vitality, and aligning with authentic purpose.