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Manifesting Mindset Coaching Package

Mindset Coaching involves having your own empowerment coach. Every moment of every day you can coach yourself into the best thinking and feeling state given the situation. What is true for many people however is that they have a disempowerment coach. We are all familiar with this voice inside that questions our abilities, doubts the possibilities and worries about negative outcomes. We can choose to focus instead on our empowerment coach who knows we have to first diffuse stress and negativity and then through the power of the present moment align our thoughts and feelings with what we want. We wrote, Manifesting Mindset and The Happy Map as guidebooks to developing your inner empowerment coach. They address how to use your mindset to create happiness, transform habits, experience health and manifest your goals and dreams.

Mindset Coaching allows us to tap into the awesome power that lies within and skillfully navigate the path of thinking, feeling and acting in alignment with what we want. It feels empowering, confidence building and in many ways like pure magic. There is nothing more satisfying and gratifying than knowing we have our own back, we can steer the ship of our thoughts and feelings and create the experiences we want in life.

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Mindset Coaching

People who have mastered the art of manifesting understand how to use the power of their mind. The blueprint to bringing your goals and intentions to life is deeply conditioned in your subconscious mind. It is this blueprint that determines what you manifest. What most people don’t realize is that the programs running your current success blueprint will remain exactly the way they are unless you identify and change them. This is what is meant by the statement, ‘you can be as successful as you believe you can be.’

Here are five distinct and often subconscious mindsets that are at the heart of Manifesting Mindset Coaching;

  1. Every thought is a directive, whereby your brain goes on a mission to find solutions. You can’t tell your brain not to do something. Instead you have to tell it what to do.

  2. Your goal achieving actions are a result of your thoughts and emotions about what is important to you. Your dominantly held beliefs and expectations are the basis of your manifestations, not your actions. You have to become a master of your mind in order to master your results.

  3. Your EQ is far more powerful in determining your success than your IQ. It is 58% of your success to be exact. In reality, you have to become a master of your emotional intelligence in order to master achieving results.

  4. Here’s a hint as to why this is true. When you are stressed you can’t create anything new, you can only recycle the past. This is due to the fact that your brain will only give you access to past information.

  5. To clarify even further, you can’t talk your way out of your feelings. The science of the mind body connection provides clear answers as to how to transform stress and increase your emotional intelligence.

Manifesting Mindset Coaching will assist you to become a master of your mind. Through a series of practical and experiential coaching sessions you will identify limiting subconscious patterns, reprogram your manifesting blueprint and apply strategies to leverage your greatest resource. Together we will apply The 6 Steps of the Attraction Formula to use the power of your mindset to attract your goals and dreams.

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Mindset: Your True Energy Potential

Mindset Coaching is based on how your mind, brain, and body work together to create your experiences and results. This relationship is dynamic, complex and highly sophisticated. The mind and body are interconnected in such a way that it is nearly impossible to tell where one begins and the other ends. They are in constant communication with each other via a superhighway of nerves, neurochemicals, neural pathways and more. As it relates to our internal experiences and external results, we are going to explore how you can use your mindset to skillfully navigate this relationship.

In the simplest terms, your thoughts and emotions have far more creative power than your action alone. Similar to the understanding that the amount of effort you apply in your physical action constitutes a degree of energy potential, your thoughts and emotions also result in energy output. Consequently, there is a cause and effect relationship with not only your actions regarding your goal but also what you are thinking and feeling about your goal. The significance of this is really understood when you consider that your mind never shuts off. You never stop thinking and feeling. It is a 24/7 process. This results in significantly greater energy potential in your internal conversation than your external effort.  If you rely solely on your actions, you will take the slow antiquated road to manifesting.

Several key findings in neuropsychology and physics research get at the heart of the power of your mindset…

The Mind and the Brain

1. Your mind is your most powerful tool to change your brain and feel happy.

The brain: Your brain is a 3-pound organ that receives perceptual input from your mind, as well as input from your five senses. It then transmits this information to the appropriate part of your body for action. It’s part of the visible, tangible world of your body. It primarily responds to directives from your conscious and subconscious mind. Based on evolution, the brain is divided into three main parts: the reptilian brain, the limbic system, and the neocortex.

Neurons: Your brain contains 1.31 trillion cells, including 100 billion neurons. It contains as many neurons as there are stars in the Milky Way Galaxy. Each neuron, on average, receives approximately 5,000 electrical connections, called synapses. A typical neuron fires an electrochemical charge 5 to 50 times per second. This results in an extraordinary number of connections communicating information throughout your body. This is where the mind enters the picture.

The mind: The information traveling in the 5,000 synapses of the 100 billion neurons at the rate of 5 to 50 seconds is what can be referred to as the mind. The mind is divided into two levels of awareness: conscious awareness and subconscious awareness. Your mind is the driving force of your will, or mental energy, directing your brain and body. It’s part of the invisible world of thought, feeling, emotion, belief, and imagination.

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How to Use Your Mind to Change Your Brain

Mental activity strengthens the neural pathways in your brain associated with what you focus on with your thoughts and feelings. To oversimplify this—but, nonetheless, clearly state what is happening—if you focus on happiness with your thoughts and feelings, you strengthen happiness pathways. If you focus on stress with your thoughts and feelings, you strengthen stress pathways. Neural pathways are the basis of your habits of thinking, feeling, and acting. They are what you believe to be true and why you do what you do. Donald Hebb’s landmark discovery in 1949, “neurons that fire together wire together,” best explains the process of forming, strengthening, and solidifying neural pathways.

Each time you travel down desired pathways of thought, feeling, and action you strengthen them. This is great news for increasing happiness levels. As long as you know how to develop and strengthen neural pathways, you can change your mood states and increase positivity. This is also why the habits you have had for many years are the most challenging to change. They have carved the most well-worn grooves, or deepest moguls, in your brain.

Neural Pathways

2.You can rewire the tendency toward negativity by diffusing stress.

Old Science

The functions that make up brain structures can’t change. The wiring of your brain is permanent or hardwired.

New Science

According to neural plasticity, your brain can be rewired. Your brain as an experience-dependent organ is constantly changing based on your experiences. According to Michael Merzenich from the book The Brain that Changes Itself, practicing a new habit under the right conditions can change hundreds of millions and possibly billions of the connections between the nerve cells in your neural pathways. Therefore, you can create new neural pathways to form new habits of thinking, feeling, and acting.

What this means for you: You can change pretty much whatever you set your mind to. To tap into the power of plasticity, you have to meet specific conditions such as presence, emotional connection, security, and repetition. For instance, if you’re optimistic and feeling calm and confident in the present moment, then you’re rewiring your brain for happiness. On the other hand, if you’re overstressed, thinking negative thoughts, and worried about the future, you are not rewiring your brain for happiness in that moment.

Emotional Energy

3.Your emotions play an executive role in neural plasticity and the power of your mindset.

A thought without intense emotion and feeling has no meaning, no value, and no real power to effectively engage your neural pathways. Intensity of emotion and feeling is required to take an experience and make it a solidified habit. The more emotion you engage, the more neurons you activate to form well-worn neural pathways. Emotions and feelings act as the glue that binds you to experiences. They are the juice, or energy, behind your thoughts that give power to your memories, goals, hopes, and dreams.

Neuroscience of Emotion

Several key discoveries have significantly changed our understanding of the relationship between the emotional brain and the analytical brain.

  • Based on neural circuitry, our emotional brain responds faster to incoming information or stimuli than our analytical brain does.

  • The emotional brain has more neural circuits connecting to the analytical brain than the analytical brain has connecting to the emotional brain.

  • The emotional brain is connected to every area of the brain, whereas the analytical brain is not.

  • On the basis of survival, the experience of stress and feelings of worry, fear, or anger take priority over feelings of happiness and peace of mind.

As a result of these findings, the emotional brain is considered to have executive power in the brain. It influences all decision making, thought processes, memories, and present experiences. Your ability to understand, deal with, and effectively use your emotional energy is vital to using your mindset to create desired experiences.

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What is Mindset

Mindset is a combination of what we know about the relationship between the mind and the brain, the executive power of emotion and neural plasticity. To tap into this power we recommend that you;

  • Tend to your emotional state first by diffusing stress

  • Connect to the present moment

  • Align your emotional state with your thoughts and beliefs about what you want

  • Practice being in this state daily

Through repetition, neural pathways develop and new habits form around what you want to create or experience. Let’s build on this and explore a few more key components of working with your mindset.

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Optimism vs. Pessimism

4.Your mind can work for or against you

The creative power of your mind can work for you or against you. Your positive as well as your not so positive thoughts and emotions emit energy potential. Most people focus on what they don’t want most of the time. 87% of the time to be exact. This includes states of mind such as impatience, frustration, doubt, worry, anxiety, stress, obligation, disappointment, and regret just to name a few. If you move through your day stressed out about all of the items on your to do list, you are emitting a signal of tension and obligation. This is not going to allow you to build neural pathways of wellbeing and happiness. Instead you will be repeating patterns and habits of stress and negativity. If you feel you tend towards the glass half empty, not to worry, there is hope. We can and in fact we are training our neural pathways in every moment. When you diffuse stress and align your emotional state in the present moment, you gain access to becoming more of a glass half full person. It takes conscious awareness, practice, heart and dedication.

Power of the Present

5.Your power is in the present moment

Your creative power exists in the present moment. This may seem like common sense however now is the only real place we create from. Presenteeism has emerged as a term used to describe the lack of presence in work and life. Research shows the average person are not present 47% of their day. It was also shown that when people are not present they are not happy.

There are many factors that contribute to not being present especially in our technological world. It can be simplified by recognizing that the majority of people spend most of their time living from the future and feeling from the past.  If you are ruminating about the past or anticipating the future you are creating that reality in your present.  For example, if you find yourself waiting for the end of the workday, the weekend or the achievement of your goal to finally experience happiness, freedom or relaxation you are living in the future vs. present. Future focus intensifies dissatisfaction and dilutes your ability to be powerful in the present.

Everything is Energy

6.The Zero Point Field

Based on the ‘Zero Point Field’, everything is energy. This field is a web of energy that connects us all. Like a fish in water that may not be aware that it is surrounded by water supporting and sustaining it we may not be aware that we are surrounded and sustained by a sea of energy that is everywhere present.

In fact, we are comprised of 1 million parts energy compared to 1-part physical matter. In this equation, your thoughts and emotions are your largest energy generators.

The mind is believed to have the capacity of approximately 70,000 thoughts and emotions per day. When you think thoughts and feel feelings you are moving molecules of energy within and around you.  Perhaps you have heard of the psychological theory of the self-fulfilling prophecy. This theory supports the premise that our thought and emotional patterns will determine our behavior and life experience. Consequently, what you believe about yourself has a significant impact on your experiences.

You have greater energy behind your thoughts and emotions than you have behind your actions. Actions are secondary feedback based on what you are first holding in your mind. Every action is preceded by a thought and feeling. Thus, if you say to yourself, ‘This isn’t going to work, I can’t stand doing it this way’, yet you go ahead and act anyway, you are in essence working against yourself.

In every moment you have two choices;

  1. You can focus the creative power of your mind on what you want.
  2. You can focus on what you don’t want.

The choice you make sets into motion a domino effect of connections in your mind and body that ultimately determines the path you travel in your life. This path looks like moving closer to what you want or further away. Your greatest asset in experiencing more of what you want can be found in the conversation you are having in this very moment. Mindset Coaching uses the power of your thoughts and emotions to direct the flow of this conversation to experience more of what you want.

About the Authors

Hilary Stokes Phd

Dr. Hilary Stokes is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in San Diego, California. Dr. Hilary received her PhD in psychology with a specialty in transpersonal psychology from San Diego University for Integrative Studies, a master’s degree in social work from San Diego State University and a master’s degree in Sport Psychology from San Jose State University. 

In addition to her private practice, she has experience working in integrative medical facilities such as the world-renowned healthcare facility Sanoviv Medical Institute, treatment centers for addictions and PTSD including Casa Palmera Treatment Center, psychiatric hospitals, schools and universities, correctional facilities, and business organizations.

Dr. Hilary specializes in a mind-body approach to healing trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, coping skills, self-esteem, addictions, eating disorders, relationship challenges, life transitions, purpose in life, and performance anxiety.

She has published several articles and co-authored two books, The Happy Map: Your roadmap to the habit of happiness and Manifesting Mindset: The 6-step formula for attracting your goals and dreams. She is currently furthering her knowledge and expertise in attachment focused EMDR and somatic therapy. In addition to a love of learning about neuroscience and mind body healing, Hilary can be found meditating, hiking, surfing, scuba diving, and spending time with her pets, family, and friends.

Companies and organizations we have worked with:

Presentations, Doris Howell Foundation, Institute of Functional Medicine, La Jolla Institute for Immunology, Nissan, Compass Real Estate Sharp Health Institute, Mattel, Usana Health Sciences, Youth and Family Assistance, MLK Family, Decorus, Odessy, Ariix, Casa Palmera Treatment Center, EVCI, Interboro, DEMA, GSDBA, LGBTQ Center San Diego

Websites and social featuring our publications:

  • Mind Body Green
  • Psych Central
  • Cure Joy
  • SD voyager
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Kim Ward Phd

Dr. Kim Ward received her PhD in psychology with a specialty in transpersonal psychology from San Diego University for Integrative Studies. She also holds a master’s degree in transpersonal psychology from John F. Kennedy University in Orinda, California. Dr. Kim is a certified trauma-informed coach and life coach in private practice in San Diego, California.

In addition to her private practice, she has experience working in integrative medical facilities such as the world-renowned healthcare facility Sanoviv Medical Institute, treatment centers for addictions and PTSD including Casa Palmera Treatment Center, psychiatric hospitals, schools and universities, correctional facilities, and business organizations. Dr. Kim specializes in an integrative approach to dealing with trauma, anxiety, and depression, making peace with the past, transforming stress, healing relationships, living with purpose, and rewiring your brain for happiness.

She has been featured in several articles and co-authored two books, The Happy Map: Your roadmap to the habit of happiness and Manifesting Mindset: The 6-step formula for attracting your goals and dreams. Given the powerful healing experiences she witnesses with Brainspotting, she is presently advancing and deepening her skills in both Brainspotting and somatic therapy. Outside of her love for helping people, Kim has a passion for exercise, all animals, spending time in nature, meditating, and connecting with her family and friends.

Companies and organizations we have worked with:

Presentations, Doris Howell Foundation, Institute of Functional Medicine, La Jolla Institute for Immunology, Nissan, Compass Real Estate Sharp Health Institute, Mattel, Usana Health Sciences, Youth and Family Assistance, MLK Family, Decorus, Odessy, Ariix, Casa Palmera Treatment Center, EVCI, Interboro, DEMA, GSDBA, LGBTQ Center San Diego

Websites and social featuring our publications:

  • Mind Body Green
  • Psych Central
  • Cure Joy
  • SD voyager
read more
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